After the Affair: What Actually Happens in the First 90 Days
After the Affair: What Actually Happens in the First 90 Days The aftermath of betrayal is disorienting in a way most people are not prepared for. Even people who are emotionally intelligent, grounded, self-aware, or “normally calm” often find themselves reacting in ways that feel foreign to them after discovering an affair. One moment you feel numb. The next you’re rage-cleaning the kitchen at midnight. Then you’re asking detailed questions you never thought you’d ask another human being. Then you’re convinced you’re done. Then you’re devastated at the thought of losing the relationship. Then you’re angry at yourself for still loving the person who hurt you. People often assume this means they’re unstable. Usually, it means their nervous system has experienced a profound attachment injury. Betrayal trauma is not “just heartbreak” This is the part many people misunderstand. Infidelity is not only painful because of the loss of trust. It is painful because it disrupts a person’s sense of...
